Good Friends... Bad Friends... Girlfriends

Every so often I find myself analyzing my life and the people in it. Why are they here? Lately I have found myself asking why. Why weren't my calls returned? Why did things change? Was it me? My job? My kid? I just do not get it!



Relationships among women are so incredibly complicated, I can't even begin to describe how incredibly complicated these relationships are. I do not think I will even understand them EVER AND I AM OF THE FEMALE GENDER! I really do try to form good, solid relationships, I however when I realize things are toxic cut the cord a lot quicker than most.



I really really miss the days when the only requirement for friendship was sharing or trading lunches and trading your favorite toy for the weekend. Once all of those lovely hormones kicked in, it was all down hill. Add in Jobs, Husbands/significant others, homes and children and life as we knew it would never ever be the same.



Every now and again, I will make a friend that I just instantly click with. This friend always shows up in the places I never thought I would meet someone, but this friend is instantly one whom is there no matter what. I don't feel weird telling my secrets to them, I don't even care what we talk about it...she just gets me. These are the friends I will hold onto with BOTH hands.



This is the friend that I will trust implicitly with my soul and know without a doubt that she would never hurt me or betray me. Not every friend I have made over the years was/is out to see me excel or want what's best for me. There are/were always those jealous, catty women who would love nothing more than to see me fall down so they can laugh and feel better about themselves and their current life situations.



I don't think I will EVER understand why women do the things we do to each other. It gets so tiring watching women tear each other down over some of the most petty things. Don't get me wrong, it's not like I am completely innocent. I have come across women that irritate me beyond all reason and control but I HATE when I feel that way. I like to think that I have a lot of patience, however once something sets me off, you will know without a shadow of a doubt that I HAVE HAD ENOUGH.



Every woman needs a good girlfriend. A girlfriend she can talk to about anything, nothing and everything in between. Sometimes, only WOMEN understand other women and that's when you have that friend you turn to...The one you pick up with right where you left off...The one who is just as happy to have you in her life as you are to have her in yours...The one who understands work, kids, marriage, family, etc sometimes gets in the way of your giggle together time...The one who finishes your thoughts for you...The one whose hands you NEVER let go of, even if she thought you did. These are the friends which even though you do not see them every day- remain friends just separated by a quick call to say hello every now and again or a quick email funny. These are the friends you hold on to. These are the friends you will have forever.



To all of my forever friends THANK YOU. You know who you are and I love you all. My life is filled with a bunch of wonderful women who support, love, laugh and cry with me. Without you all I do not know what or where I would be. Forever friends are here to stay... everything else is just pounds of excess baggage.



In closing- I am beginning to think that one very important woman in my life was once again right. Thanks mom.



What are your thoughts on the relationships between women and do you have any experiences to share? What makes a "forever friend" to you?